MJ’s Why

Hi. I’m M.J., the owner and author of this site. I’ve been blogging in one way or another for over 10 years. In that time, I’ve told and read thousands of stories to strangers online. I’ve made connections with, and learned from, people, specifically women, and more specifically, moms from all over the country and all walks of life. I’ve met women across all racial, political, economical, educational, generational spectrums, including my favorite group, hot mess express moms. Often, the women I met fell into multiple, sometimes seemingly contradictory categories. Each woman, each person, has a story. An underlying motive that drives them to their beliefs. Most of them are valid, though some are rooted in fear and/or ignorance, but almost everyone is fueled politically by a desire to achieve belonging and satisfaction in this life. I know I am. I’m also a hot mess express.

I want to tell you my why. Why, after spending most of my life, politically apathetic, only bothering to engage in politics after the 2016 election, I am devoting time and energy to spread the gospel of Pete Buttigieg.

The last two years, the highest office in the land has been filled with hateful rhetoric, fearmongering, fake news, bullying and disgrace. And this is all I’ve ever known of politics.

I lived in a bubble of privilege without knowing it. I knew I had white-privilege, but I didn’t know my privilege as a straight, white Christian woman protected me from so many policies hurt fellow Americans, fellow humans. I am ashamed for not realizing it sooner, but I cannot go back. I can only move forward and do my part now. I wish I had used my words more in 2015, to speak truth to the lies being spread by the GOP candidates, Fox News and conservatives on Facebook. I wish I had realized sooner that my silence was complicity. In the words of Maya Angelou, “When you know better, do better.”

I know better now, and I’m doing better.

For the first time in my life, I have hope for the future of the United States. For the first time in years, I can imagine a better tomorrow. I have faith that this country will be better for my children than it has been for me. I imagine a post-school shooting America. One where it won’t matter who has guns because no one will be prone to murder. (I’m not saying I don’t want gun laws, obviously. (I know many of you are thinking I don’t need that disclaimer, trust me, I’ve been on social media since it’s inception, I need that disclaimer)).

Pete Buttigieg transcends politics. He transcends all our groupings because he brings his whole self to the table. A Maltese-American, left-handed millennial, gay, Christian, war veteran, midwestern, mayor cannot be put into a group, yet, he belongs to ever group. To quote Brene Brown who quoted and pays homage to Maya Angelou in her book, Braving the Wilderness, “You only are free when you realize you belong no place — you belong every place — no place at all.” Brown goes onto describe her journey from hating that quote, to living by it. She tells her story, which brings us back here.

Storytelling is one of the most vulnerable and powerful things we can do. Our stories have the power to change hearts and minds. Pete Buttigieg is telling us his story, allowing us to know what drives him, and it is clear that the betterment of society for the people of this country, all the people, is his motivation.

Being able to bring your full self to the table takes courage, acceptance, wisdom and humility. I’m here bringing my whole self, to this space, including my overuse of parentheticals, my unadulterated truth and my random humor. Pete brings his whole self to the table when he speaks. He is not speaking to gain votes, he is speaking from his heart.

Pete’s own story is my why. Telling yours is my mission.

Share your why by emailing me at hello@whymayorpete.com or by filling out this form.